So the date was great. Now, you're thinking about what to say afterward, how soon to contact your date, and all that other social awkwardness that comes with indicating your interest without being overly excited — you know the drill! We're here to help with ideas of what to say after a date. Don't stress – you've totally got this with our after-date text messages to help you strike just the right tone.
What to Say After a Date
When you're in the early stages of dating, you haven't really figured out your rhythm and flow yet. So you may feel a little nervous because it's always a risk when you put yourself out there and are vulnerable with another individual. But it could be totally worth it. Your date may be just as intrigued by you as you are by them, and follow-up communication can help you figure that out.
Text Check-In After a First Date
You made it home, and you had a great time. You can't wait to connect again. Do you text them right away? We say go for it, especially with just a quick follow-up to let them know you enjoyed yourself. Try something like one of these examples of what to say after a first date.
- Thanks for such an epic date!! Definitely one of the best first dates I've had!
- I just wanted to tell you how much fun I had on our date. It was so nice to connect with such a genuine and kind person. Let me know if you'd like to meet up again!
- Thanks for going out with me tonight! Would you like to see a movie next weekend?
- I had so much fun with you tonight! You are beyond hilarious. I haven't laughed that hard in a while!
- I have to admit I was really nervous about meeting you, but I've really loved getting to know you and hearing about your interests.
Send a Text That Asks to Spend More Time Together
If things went really well on your date, you may be interested in spending more time together. These texts are a great way to indicate you'd like to get together again.
- I had such an amazing time with you tonight! I'd love to see you again if you're up for it.
- It was so nice meeting you! I had the best time with you today. How would you feel about meeting up again later in the week?
- That was really fun. I'm so glad we went out. I'd love to get together next weekend and catch up over coffee. Would that work for you?
- It was so much fun spending time with you. You're a ton of fun to be with. Can we do it again later this week?
Indicate Your Appreciation and Interest With a Thank-You Text
Another way to show you had fun and indicate you're interested in pursuing more is with a thank-you text, such as one of these:
- Thank you so much for such a great date! I had fun spending time with you.
- Thanks for dinner. I had a blast, and the restaurant was so good. I'd love to do it again sometime.
- I just wanted to thank you for going above and beyond on our date tonight. I had such a great time with you.
- Thank you so much for taking me out tonight! I'd love to see you again!
- It's rare to find someone you connect so instantly with! I'm grateful that I got to spend time with you tonight.
- Thanks for showing me such a good time. You're really fun to hang out with, and I'd love to do it again.
Flirt Over Text After a First Date
After your initial contact, if you received a positive response, you may want to follow up a day or two later with a flirty text. Some things you can say include:
- I keep thinking about what you said about (insert funny thing they said) and laughing. I really enjoy someone who can make me laugh.
- I thought you looked amazing on our date. I'm looking forward to seeing you again.
- Our date was so much fun. You definitely made my week.
- I've been thinking about our date all day. I'm looking forward to Saturday so we can do it again.
End It After a First Date
So what if your date was fine, but there just wasn't any there there? How do you manage that situation so you aren't awkwardly responding to hopeful texts? These messages can help.
- It was great to meet you. I'll be honest and tell you I didn't really feel a spark, so I think it's best if we don't go out again.
- Thanks for hanging out last night. I really got more of a friend vibe, so I don't think we should pursue anything. Take care.
- It was nice to spend time with you last night. I got the feeling we don't really vibe for a long-term relationship, so I think we should probably go our separate ways.
- Thanks for our date. I think you're a nice person, but this really doesn't feel like a good fit. Take care.
Keep Texting After the Second Date
So you made it to a second date, and it still looks promising. If it doesn't, you can always use the texts to end it (above). But if all systems appear to be go, you can send a text similar to one of these.
- Hey! Just wanted to let you know how much fun I had on our date! I loved seeing you for a second time! Want to go for round three?
- Thanks for such a perfect date! I'd love to see you again! I'm free on Saturday if you want to try that restaurant we talked about.
- I just wanted to tell you that I had the best time with you! I really loved learning more about you and am definitely open to seeing you again!
- Two awesome dates down!! Should we go for a perfect three?
- I'm so happy our connection seemed to be as strong this time as it was on our first date. Can't wait to see you for the next one and keep building it.
- Hey! That was even better than our first date. I think we have a real connection. I'm excited to see where this goes.
- Thanks for another great date. I haven't laughed so hard in ages. I'm looking forward to more laughs together.
Start a Conversation After a Date
If you've had a great date and want to see them again, you can say something after the date and/or via text message. While being open with your date can feel nerve-wracking, doing so offers you the opportunity to see if they feel the same way about you.
