We all know that communication is important in a relationship, but it isn't always easy to communicate effectively. One of the ways to start improving your relationship is by eliminating the barriers that block effective communication. If you're struggling to communicate with your partner, take a look and see if any of these exist in your relationship. Once you're aware of the things that block effective and constructive communication, you can begin to make changes that will benefit your relationship.
Identifying Communication Barriers
Communication barriers usually block the meaning of the messages sent. These blocks cause misunderstandings and deliver unintentional messages. Some conversations are more susceptible, such as arguments.
Different barriers result in misunderstandings. Many people are unaware of how their listening skills damage discussions. Working through barriers can help your romantic bond as well as other relationships in your life. The following are different conversational blocks that may be present.
Conflict
Message blocks are common when someone is in a conflict. During a disagreement, defenses inhibit a person's concentration on what the other person is saying. A lack of concentration results in poor listening skills and additional arguing.
Physical Distance
It can be difficult to have a good conversation if you have objects in the way. Distance can be an issue as well if one person cannot hear clearly. The best way to speak with someone is to sit or stand across from them.
Distractions
Another form of physical roadblock is distractions. If possible, make sure there are no interruptions or distractions during conversations.
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Misperceptions
Sometimes while talking with your significant other, one person misperceives what the other is saying. This happens when you think your partner is upset over one thing, but they're actually upset about something else. These misunderstandings can lead to false feedback or advice that can make the person feel unheard. If you ever feel that you have the wrong perception, simply ask the person to clarify.
Psychological Interference
This is a common barrier and can be difficult to avoid. Emotional stress can interfere with active listening. If you're having a hard day or going through something very personal, it's difficult to concentrate on what others are saying. When this is a problem, you'll need to let your significant other know that it's a bad time, but you would love to discuss it later.
Lack of Experience
Many times in a relationship, couples do not have similar experiences. When this occurs, one person has a hard time following or concentrating. To be an active listener, you need to ask your partner to clarify what you don't understand and to be patient while you try to follow.
Not Listening
You need to want to listen. If you don't feel that you can listen to that person, you need to let your partner know that you are not able to concentrate at that time. Ignoring what a person says fuels anger and resentment. Letting the person know that you are unable to listen because you are busy will prevent hard feelings between the two of you.
Unsolicited Advice
Some people like to vent and not receive any advice. If you have a need to give advice excessively, it can hurt the conversations you have with your partner. Unsolicited advice prevents some people from opening up. You may only be trying to help, but instead, your partner feels as though they can't vent without having to hear more criticism. When in a conversation, try to step back and be supportive. Provide encouragement and let them know you're there if needed. Your partner will ask for advice if they're looking for it.
Non-Verbal Cues
Your non-verbal cues are just as important as your verbal language. What you're saying has to match what you're doing. If you say that you're listening but look the other way, then you're sending a mixed message. Many people will stop talking if they feel that you aren't paying attention, even if you tell the person you're listening. Pay attention to your actions as well as your words when speaking with your significant other.
Cultural and Language Differences
Cultural differences are present in the way people communicate. You may find that some people will stand very close to you while talking while others stand further away. Another difference is that some cultures will not look at another person while talking, which appears to send the wrong message. Understanding these cultural traditions can help you and your partner work through poor communication. Language and the definitions of words can be another problem due to issues with understanding, even if you speak the same language.
Avoid Barriers by Active Listening
Active listening is the best way to avoid blocks in communication. As your partner talks, ask questions to clarify without interrupting. When your partner has finished discussing something, acknowledge that you were listening by saying, "I understand how difficult this must be for you." Your partner will appreciate that you heard the concerns and you are being empathetic.
