Getting to know someone means talking about more than just the surface stuff. We're talking about those really great conversations that let you see a little bit of what the other person's soul is really like. Asking some deep relationship questions can help you get that kind of conversation started. These questions are designed to prompt the kind of great talk that helps reveal the true nature of a person.
Deep Relationship Questions About Who You Are
These questions are designed to prompt further discussion, revealing more about your partner's character and how they think.
- Who do you most admire, and why?
- Did you enjoy your childhood?
- If you had a million dollars to give to a charity, which charity would the money go to?
- What is your biggest fear?
- What makes you angry?
- What do you need to feel fulfilled in life?
- Do you think people are more influenced by their environment or by their biological traits?
- What do you think your purpose is?
- Who is the villain in your life story?
- What words do you think people use to describe you?
- What words do you want people to use to describe you?
- If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
- When was the last time you cried?
- Do you think Younger You would be happy with what you have become?
- What has been your greatest accomplishment in life thus far?
- For what do you want to be remembered?
- Do you think we are all at the mercy of fate?
- If I could live your life for one day, what do you think would surprise me the most?
Don't prod your partner if a topic seems to be painful. Be understanding, as there may be things that are difficult to talk about.
Juicy Questions to Ask About Love
Your relationship can also be a topic for deep discussion. Try one of these:
- Do you think we have the same goals for our relationship?
- What is the best way I can be a supportive partner to you?
- What has been the happiest moment of our relationship up until now?
- Are there things I say or do that make you want to spend less time with me?
- How can I make you feel more appreciated and honored?
- What do you think we can do to make our relationship stronger?
- When do you feel most loved?
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Choose the right time to spring these deep relationship questions on your partner. Make sure you have enough time to have a really good discussion, and be sure you're in a good place emotionally before you start talking.
Keep Talking With Follow-Up Questions
The more information you can pull from your partner, the more you will know about them by the time the conversation ends. Ask open-ended questions, and if your partner responds with a simple, one-word answer, follow up with more questions to lead your partner toward elaborating. It's all about making the whole interaction positive and helping your partner feel seen and heard.
