170+ Dating Questions to Get to Know Each Other Better

When you've just started dating, it's exciting but also a little nerve-wracking. You want to get to know each other, and it's important to keep the convo flowing. That's why we love some of these dating questions. They're the perfect get-to-know-you questions for dating without sounding like an interrogation. 

Fun Get-to-Know-You Questions for the First Date

On the first date, keep the conversation light-hearted but also meaningful. That's how you start to get to know each other. And these first-date questions to ask to get to know someone romantically can help keep the conversation light and fun. 

• If you could have any superhero power, what would it be?
• Would you ever be naked in public?
• What's the best gift anyone has ever given you?
• If you were going to sing karaoke, what song would you choose?
• What's your favorite movie, and why?
• Where's your ideal vacation spot?
• Who is your favorite person in the world?
• What makes you feel most alive?
• What's the kindest thing anyone's ever done for you, and why did it mean so much?
• What's the craziest thing you hope to do one day?
• What's your favorite flavor of ice cream?
• Are you a dog person or a cat person?
• Do you like to plan things out, or do you prefer to be more spontaneous?
• What are five things I'd see if I walked through your front door?
• What's your favorite type of music?
• What's the weirdest nickname that someone has for you, and why?
• If you could be any animal, what would it be, and why?
• If you could live during any period in history, when would it be, and why?
• Give me three words that describe you.

Dating Questions About Family

Family background is often a great place to start when you're getting to know someone. Of course, not everyone will want to talk about their family, so pay attention to non-verbal cues and change the subject if the topic seems touchy for your date. 

• Do you have any siblings?
• What's something fun or interesting about your family when you were growing up?
• What did you like to do with your family when you were a kid?
• How do you feel about family reunions? 
• Do you have any unusual family traditions?
• What's your favorite family tradition?
• What does your family do for the holidays?
• Is there anyone in your family you don't like?
• Who's your favorite family member?
• What was your parents' relationship like?
• What was your relationship like with your siblings?
• Are you close to your cousins or extended family?
• What type of family vacations did you take?
• What was your favorite family vacation?
• What are your favorite family activities?
• Did your family have pets?

Questions to Ask About Childhood

When you're first getting to know someone, you don't have to take a deep dive into childhood (unless you want to), but these light questions will get you started.

• Who was your childhood best friend?
• Did you ever have imaginary friends?
• What's the strangest thing that ever happened when you were a kid?
• What's your happiest childhood memory?
• What kind of student were you?
• Did you belong to a clique in school? Which one?
• What teen drama trope would you have been as a teen?
• What's the most mischief you ever got in when you were a kid?
• What's something you got in trouble for when you were a kid?
• What was your first job?
• What kind of neighborhood did you grow up in?
• What types of things did you like to play when you were a kid?
• What did you want to be when you grew up? 
• Could kid you ever have imagined what you do for a living now?
• What piece of advice do you wish you could go back and offer to kid you?
• What weird stuff were you afraid of when you were a kid?

Funny Questions to Ask to Get to Know Someone Romantically

Share a laugh with some of these funny getting-to-know-you questions.

• Do you have any weird talents? What are they?
• Do you have a party trick? What is it?
• If you were on a sitcom, what would your catchphrase be?
• Have you ever pulled a funny prank (or been the victim of a funny prank)?
• What's your favorite hot dog topping (and what should NEVER be on a hot dog)?
• What's the grossest (or strangest) thing you've ever eaten?
• What's your guilty pleasure?
• Do you watch any shows you're embarrassed to tell people you watch?
• How long would you survive in a zombie apocalypse?
• What's your theme song?
• What fringe beliefs do you have that you're embarrassed to share with other people?
• What is the stinkiest thing you've ever smelled?
• How do you feel about pumpkin spice?
• What nickname would you give me right now?
• What fictional character do you think is the most like you?
• If you ever ran for political office, what would you run for?
• What would you call your memoir?
• If you had a band, what would its name be?
• What makes you laugh super hard?

Light-Hearted but Sort of Deep Dating Questions

You know those questions that seem kind of silly on the surface but hint at deeper topics? They're a great way to get to know someone!

• Do you believe there's other life in the universe, or are we all alone?
• What do you think has really happened when someone says they were abducted by aliens?
• Are there any conspiracy theories you low-key believe?
• Have you ever seen a ghost?
• What's the spookiest thing that ever happened to you?
• Do you think you're psychic?
• Have you ever had a dream that actually happened?
• Who do you think you were in a past life?
• What/who do you want to come back as in your next life?
• Who/where/what do you want to haunt when you die?
• If you could travel in time, when would you go?
• Do you think déjà vu is a glitch in the matrix?
• Have you ever seen a UFO/UAP? What do you think it was?
• Do you lucid dream?
• If you could manifest any one thing right now, what would it be?
• If a genie gave you three wishes, what would you wish for?
• If you could make a magical potion, what would the potion do?
• What fictional world would you like to live in?
• If you could go to school to get a magical power, what would you want to learn to do?
• What's your idea of utopia?

Dating Questions About Career

For some people, their job is just a way to make money. For others, it's about a sense of purpose or a higher calling. Which is why jobs and careers make such a great conversation topic when you're getting to know someone.

• Why did you choose your career?
• What's your biggest career accomplishment?
• Is this what you thought you'd be doing with your life?
• Is your job just for money, or do you feel a higher calling?
• If money wasn't an issue, what would you want to be doing for work?
• What's the best job you ever had?
• What's the worst job you ever had?
• What job would you never do, no matter how much it paid?
• What job would you love to do, even if it paid very little?
• What do you think makes a good boss?
• Who is the best boss you ever had?
• Have you ever quit a job without notice? Why?
• Are there any jobs you regret leaving?
• What's your elevator pitch in a job interview?
• What's the worst thing you ever had to do for a job?
• What's the coolest thing you ever got to do for a job?

Get-to-Know-You Questions for Dating About Hobbies & Interests

Everyone has stuff they love to do, and since they're not being paid for it, they're probably pretty passionate about it. That means they'll love answering these questions, and it'll give you a good glimpse of who they really are.

• Do you like to read? What's your favorite book?
• Do you have a favorite movie genre?
• Is there a movie genre you can't stand?
• Do you play a sport?
• What's your favorite sport?
• Are there any sports you can't stand?
• Do you do anything creative? What do you do?
• What do you like to cook?
• Are you a cook who follows recipes, or do you just try stuff to see what works?
• How do you like to unwind after work?
• What's your favorite thing to do during your time off?
• Have you ever volunteered for a nonprofit?
• What are you most passionate about?
• What fun thing could you teach me to do?
• What's your go-to when you want to have fun?
• Do you have a signature cocktail?
• Where's the coolest place you've ever traveled?
• Are you more of a flyer or a road-tripper?
• What places are on your bucket list to visit?
• What's your favorite place in the world?
• Do you like to sing? Are you a good singer?
• What's your go-to workout?
• Is there any kind of music you don't like?
• Do you collect anything?
• If you could spend a week at summer camp, what type of camp would it be?

Deeper Questions to Ask to Get to Know Someone You're Dating

So you've asked all the questions, and you're ready to deepen your relationship a little. These questions can help you take a deeper dive. 

• What is something you never thought you'd be able to accomplish, but you did?
• If money were no object, what would you do with the rest of your life?
• What is your greatest personal struggle?
• Would you describe your approach to life more like climbing a mountain or getting on a roller coaster?
• Have you ever taken a personality test? What were the results?
• What would you say is the thing that brings you the most joy and fulfillment in life?
• What's something you wish people automatically knew about you?
• What is something you've done in your personal life that you're really proud of?
• Describe a time that you've made a serious mistake and what you've learned from it.
• If there were a national holiday for you, what would it be called and what would the celebration be like?
• What gives you motivation in life? (Go deeper than the surface things).
• What do you think are the most important qualities in a person?
• What (and where) would your dream house be like?
• What is a new personal hobby or activity that you've never tried, but you've always wanted to?
• Name the top five things you are most thankful for in life.
• How would you describe your communication style?
• What is one thing you wish you could instantly be an expert at today?
• What's a random award or recognition you feel you deserve?
• What is your favorite thing to create?
• If you could take a week off from your regular life to immerse yourself in learning something new, what would it be?
• What's your love language?

Dating Questions for Couples

Even if you'v been dating for a while, your conversation doesn't have to dry up! There's always something more to discover about your partner. 

• Have you ever been in love?
• Have you ever had your heart broken?
• What does a successful relationship look like to you?
• What happened in your last relationship?
• Are you friends with your former boyfriends or girlfriends?
• Do you think men and women can just be friends?
• What has been the best decision you've ever made?
• What was your first impression of me?
• What is your biggest fantasy?
• What is your biggest fear?
• Is there anything about yourself you would change?
• Do you feel like you're open to feedback, or does it feel too personal to you?
• What is something you like to do that other people would probably consider "weird" if they knew?
• What is one thing you've done (or not done) that you regret?
• Who do you want your celebrity hall pass to be?
• What did you learn about relationships from your parents?
• How would you describe your sense of humor?
• What is one thing you wish you were better at?
• What's something you avoid at all costs?

Related: 100+ Questions You Should Ask Your Partner Before Marriage

Question Games to Get to Know Your Partner

You can make conversation fun, get to know each other better, and while away time spent in the car or when you're just hanging out by playing question and answer games. These are some of our favorites.

• Dating game questions: Even if you're too young to remember The Dating Game, you can get to know each other better asking the sorts of racy questions that people used to ask on the 60s and 70s TV game show.
• Fun questions to ask your partner: From quirks to conversation starters, these fun questions will hit the mark when it comes to talking with your partner. Keep it fun while building your bond and romantic relationship.
• Would you rather questions for couples: You can learn a lot about someone by how they answer one of these fun, forced-choice questions. 

Keep the Convo Going

There's never a dull moment when you're getting to know someone new. And if the conversation lags a little, dive into one of these dating questions to keep the chat flowing like water.