220+ Revealing 'Would You Rather' Questions for Couples

We love a rousing round of "would you rather?" It's a fun way to dive deep with your partner. From slightly sweet to super sexy, these "would you rather" questions for couples are the perfect way to spend time with your sweetie. 

Flirty 'Would You Rather' Questions for Couples

Once you've been together for a while, flirting becomes less of a priority. Well, we say bring the flirty back with these "would you rather" questions to share with your partner. Get ready to get your flirt on. 

• Would you rather have a back massage or a foot massage?
• Would you rather get a hug or cuddle on the couch?
• Would you rather I wear pants with no top or a top with no pants?
• Would you rather sit together on a porch swing or on a Ferris wheel?
• Would you rather send playful texts all day or talk on the phone late at night?
• Would you rather have a horoscope compatibility chart done or get a psychic reading?
• Would you rather receive a flirty wink or play footsie at dinner?
• Would you rather gaze at the stars or at each other?
• Would you rather eat chocolate-covered strawberries or Godiva chocolates?
• Would you rather slow dance or sing a duet?
• Would you rather sit by a campfire or hold hands at the movies?
• Would you rather see a sunrise or sunset together?
• Would you rather share a blanket or a sleeping bag?
• Would you rather see me in sexy underwear or naked?
• Would you rather be best friends who become lovers or lovers who become best friends?

Sexy 'Would You Rather' Questions for Your Partner

We love a game as a gateway to intimacy, and these slightly sexy "would you rather" questions hit all the right notes.

• Would you rather use body paint or play Twister?
• Would you rather make out on a couch or in a car parked overlooking the town?
• Would you rather get a sexy love note in your lunch bag or receive a risqué photo?
• Would you rather go skinny dipping in a hot tub or a lake?
• Would you rather be blindfolded or handcuffed?
• Would you rather receive a surprise romantic dinner or a surprise sexy gift?
• Would you rather play strip poker or dirty Truth or Dare?
• Would you rather find your lover waiting in a bubble bath or all packed for a surprise weekend getaway?
• Would you rather try something new with your lover or stay with the tried and true?
• Would you rather sext or look but not touch?
• Would you rather make the first move or have your partner initiate?
• Would you rather kiss or tell?
• Would you rather be spanked or bitten?
• Would you rather get a nude text from me or enjoy a striptease?
• Would you rather role-play or talk dirty?

'Would You Rather' Questions About Your Relationship

Intimacy is more than physical, and these "would you rather" questions are designed to get to the heart of who you and your partner are as a couple. 

• Would you rather be best friends and lovers or just lovers?
• Would you rather only talk and never have sex again or only have sex and never talk again?
• Would you rather I wrote you a love poem or sang you a love song?
• Would you rather receive a piece of jewelry or a room makeover for an anniversary?
• Would you rather spend a holiday alone together or with family?
• Would you rather have separate hobbies or one together?
• Would you rather go to your high school reunion alone or together?
• Would you rather sing your favorite song together or listen to a recording?
• Would you rather tell your lover a white lie to spare feelings or blurt out the truth?
• Would you rather forgive your lover or harbor a grudge?
• Would you rather try something new with your lover or stay with the tried and true?
• Would you rather take a spontaneous trip together or plan every detail?
• Would you rather spend the evening at home cuddling on the couch or out painting the town red?
• Would you rather live together before you get married or not until after?
• Would you rather tell your lover your darkest secret or never know theirs?

Romantic 'Would You Rather' Questions for Couples

Bring on the romance! These romantic "would you rather" questions can help you find out what your partner likes and get you both on the same page.

• Would you rather write your own wedding vows or copy them from a website?
• Would you rather serenade your lover or hire musicians?
• Would you rather surprise your lover with rose petals strewn from the door to the bedroom or greet them at the door with Champagne?
• Would you rather come home to dinner on the table or be ushered out to your favorite restaurant?
• Would you rather spend the evening at home cuddling on the couch or painting the town red?
• Would you rather spend the day together being pampered at a spa or enjoying a workout at the gym?
• Would you rather spend the evening together playing a video game or cuddled up together reading a book?
• Would you rather go to a jazz club or a rock concert?
• Would you rather dance to slow music or go wild with retro disco music?
• Would you rather read poetry together or go sailing?
• Would you rather read a romantic story together or write your own love story?

'Would You Rather' Questions About Life

Even if you've known each other for ages, there are probably a few things that will come as a surprise. See if you can surprise one another with these "would you rather" questions about life.

• Would you rather have all the latest technology or be off the grid?
• Would you rather spread gossip or be the subject of it?
• Would you rather have a small house on a lot of land or a big house on a small lot?
• Would you rather have more money but less quality time together, or less money and more quality time together?
• Would you rather have kids, pets, or neither?
• Would you rather host your own parties or go to other people's parties?
• Would you rather be cheap or spend money frivolously?
• Would you rather go with the flow or control every moment?
• Would you rather be in charge of yard work or house cleaning?
• Would you rather live in the past or the future?
• Would you rather plan your days out or live for the moment?
• Would you rather travel the world or sock money away for retirement?
• Would you rather never have a pet again or live with 10 cats?
• Would you rather star in a movie or be a rockstar on tour?
• Would you rather always be the center of attention or never have anyone notice you again?
• Would you rather attend Hogwarts or Starfleet Academy?

'Would You Rather' Career Questions 

You both have your career aspirations, and they say a lot about who you are. These career questions can help you take a deeper dive. 

• Would you rather be a dancer or a music composer?
• Would you rather work at a desk or outdoors?
• Would you rather be a firefighter or a doctor?
• Would you rather be a fitness instructor or a sleep therapist?
• Would you rather be a farmer or a banker?
• Would you rather have a mentally challenging job or a physically challenging one?
• Would you rather own a construction company or a fish market?
• Would you rather be a fashion designer or a choreographer? 
• Would you rather be an interior designer or an architect?
• Would you rather work four 10-hour days or five 8-hour days each week?
• Would you rather be an entrepreneur or a college professor?
• Would you rather be a furniture designer or an art gallery owner?
• Would you rather be a psychic or a preacher?
• Would you rather be a chef or a restaurant owner?
• Would you rather be a motivational speaker or a personal assistant?
• Would you rather be an airline pilot or a teacher?
• Would you rather be an author or an astronaut?
• Would you rather be an animal trainer or a circus performer?
• Would you rather be an Olympic athlete or a competitive eater?

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'Where Would You Rather Live' Questions

If you're not yet living together, this is a great way to test the waters! And even if you do, your partner's answers to these questions may surprise you. 

• Would you rather live in a mansion or a castle?
• Would you rather live on a houseboat or a luxury yacht?
• Would you rather live in the mountains or on the beach?
• Would you rather live in the country or in the city?
• Would you rather live in a Manhattan apartment or a house in the Hamptons?
• Would you rather live on the East Coast of America or on the West Coast?
• Would you rather live in a forest or a desert?
• Would you rather live at the North Pole or in Death Valley?
• Would you rather live in a lake house or a mountain house?
• Would you rather live in Iceland or Tahiti?
• Would you rather live in a commune or 50 miles from your nearest neighbor?
• Would you rather live in a van or a tent?
• Would you rather live in a gated community or a rural community?
• Would you rather live in a condo or a hotel suite?
• Would you rather live in an RV or a tiny house?
• Would you rather live in the White House or in Buckingham Palace?
• Would you rather live in a haunted house or a house that's infested by mice?
• Would you rather live in Europe or Asia?
• Would you rather live in Narnia or Middle-earth?
• Would you rather live in Emerald City or Gotham City?
• Would you rather live in the Marvel Universe or the DC Universe?
• Would you rather live at Disneyland or in the Grand Canyon?

Light-Hearted & Funny 'Would You Rather' Questions for Couples

A shared sense of humor is sexy. And we love questions and answers that make us laugh. Try these light-hearted 'would you rather' questions to help you share a laugh with your partner.

• Would you rather your partner look like Winston Churchill or Abe Lincoln?
• Would you rather only be able to watch TV on a watch-sized screen or only be able to sleep together every night in a single bed?
• Would you rather listen to throat-singing music all day, every day, or watch a static TV pattern all day, every day?
• Would you rather always mispronounce words or be tone-deaf?
• Would you rather pet a kangaroo or a chimpanzee?
• Would you rather be a whiz at crosswords or sudoku?
• Would you rather be a pooper scooper for horses in a parade or cram yourself into a car full of clowns?
• Would you rather speak a different language from everyone else in the world or be three feet taller than everyone?
• Would you rather be abducted by aliens or held for ransom by the mob?
• Would you rather your partner be a conspiracy nut or a controversial politician?
• Would you rather be a Munchkin or an Oompa Loompa?
• Would you rather only be able to smell stinky cheese or only be able to taste nickels?
• Would you rather be a Greek god(ess) or a pirate?
• Would you rather your partner look like your high school crush or a famous actor?
• Would you rather your partner couldn't remember your family's names or get lost trying to go to your mother's house?
• Would you rather ride donkeys or milk goats?
• Would you rather learn to square dance or fire-walk?
• Would you rather listen to a really bad motivational speaker or an out-of-tune orchestra?
• Would you rather your partner always wears a straw hat or always chews on a toothpick?
• Would you rather only be able to communicate in puns or one-syllable words?
• Would you rather sound like a parakeet when you laugh or cough like a snorting bull?
• Would you rather watch an unfunny comedian or the world's worst movie?
• Would you rather have laughing gas or novocaine at the dentist?
• Would you rather hang out with somebody who constantly misuses finger quotes or who shout-talks all the time?

'Would You Rather' Questions About Food, Drinks, and Dining

It's interesting to get to know someone through their food preferences. We think these food and drink "would you rather" questions are simply delicious. 

• Would you rather eat together at a restaurant or order takeout?
• Would you rather eat fish or beef?
• Would you rather eat Mexican food or Indian food?
• Would you rather never have citrus fruits again or never have berries again?
• Would you rather have to give up eating gluten or dairy for the rest of your life?
• Would you rather drive through or go into a fast-food restaurant?
• Would you rather have a hamburger or a hot dog?
• Would you rather never snack again or only eat snacks?
• Would you rather not be able to taste sugar or salt?
• Would you rather never eat meat again or never eat a vegetable again?
• Would you rather only eat plain tofu or white rice for the rest of your life?
• Would you rather drink regular cola or diet cola at the movies?
• Would you rather eat/drink something that stains your tongue bright blue or your lips bright orange?
• Would you rather cook a seven-course meal or a three-course meal together?
• Would you rather eat a ghost pepper or a super sour grapefruit?
• Would you rather give up vinegar or chili peppers?
• Would you rather only eat pancakes or eggs for breakfast?
• Would you rather meet at a diner or café?
• Would you rather eat snails or raw oysters?
• Would you rather drink sweet or unsweetened iced tea?
• Would you rather cook French or Italian food?
• Would you rather have lunch at a bistro or hamburger joint?
• Would you rather grill vegetable kabobs or oysters at the beach cottage?
• Would you rather stop at a taco stand or a Greek food truck?
• Would you rather eat super spicy food or super bland food for the rest of your life?
• Would you rather drink red wine or white wine?
• Would you rather have dinner at a steak house or a vegan restaurant?
• Would you rather dine together at an all-you-can-eat buffet or go on a picnic?
• Would you rather bake a rustic loaf of bread or a pan of muffins?
• Would you rather bake brownies or chocolate chip cookies?
• Would you rather drink a bloody Mary at home or a martini at your favorite bar?
• Would you rather drink straight espresso or a cappuccino after a romantic meal?
• Would you rather drink eggnog or Champagne at a New Year's party?
• Would you rather drink hot chocolate or coffee while snuggled up by the fire?
• Would you rather drink apple juice or tomato juice for breakfast?
• Would you rather give up caffeine or alcohol?

'Would You Rather' Buying and Shopping Questions for Couples

Shopping is another way we show who we are. Get to know your partner better with these questions about purchases. 

• Would you rather buy a brand-new luxury car or a classic muscle car?
• Would you rather buy a new sofa or recliner?
• Would you rather buy a vacation mountain cabin or a beach cottage?
• Would you rather buy a big-screen TV or a killer stereo system?
• Would you rather buy vintage vinyl or digital downloads?
• Would you rather buy a brand-new house or a fixer-upper?
• Would you rather spend money on jewelry or entertainment?
• Would you rather buy dress shoes or athletic shoes?
• Would you rather buy Birkenstocks or Louboutins? 
• Would you rather buy books or a streaming service?
• Would you rather buy new kitchen appliances or bedroom furniture?
• Would you rather buy tickets to an observatory or an aquatic museum?
• Would you rather buy a fishing boat or a pontoon boat?
• Would you rather buy Girl Scout cookies or Mrs. Fields cookies?
• Would you rather buy dress boots or cowboy boots?
• Would you rather spend your money on a vacation or a killer wardrobe?

'Would You Rather' Activity Questions

Movies or plays? Surfing or golfing competitions? What do you and your partner like to do? Relationships are all about compromise, but it's more fun if you have some favorite activities and interests in common.

• Would you rather attend a movie or play?
• Would you rather get your adrenaline pumping or have a relaxing spa day?
• Would you rather attend a surfing competition or a golf tournament?
• Would you rather attend a football game or a dog show?
• Would you rather attend a building demolition or ceremony launching a new ship?
• Would you rather attend a classic plane air show or the Rose Parade?
• Would you rather attend a car race or a horse race?
• Would you rather go hot-air ballooning or a bungee jump off a bridge?
• Would you rather go whale watching or swim with dolphins?
• Would you rather go caving (spelunking) or rock climbing?
• Would you rather attend a sailing regatta or Scottish games?
• Would you rather build a trebuchet or knit a sweater?
• Would you rather go hiking or swimming?
• Would you rather go horseback riding or skiing?
• Would you rather collect stamps or autographs?
• Would you rather train for a triathlon or never get out of bed again?
• Would you rather climb a mountain or go on a submarine?
• Would you rather sled or sunbathe?

'Would You Rather' Vacay Questions

Great vacations are at the heart of great relationships. Dream together with these "would you rather" questions about vacations.

• Would you rather vacation in Venice or Rome?
• Would you rather vacation in Martha's Vineyard or Williamsburg, Virginia?
• Would you rather visit Gettysburg or Disney World?
• Would you rather go to Las Vegas or the Florida Keys?
• Would you rather take one long vacation or several shorter ones?
• Would you rather vacation at Hilton Head, SC, or Nags Head, NC?
• Would you rather vacation at Myrtle Beach, SC, or Laguna Beach, CA?
• Would you rather vacation in Aruba or Bermuda?
• Would you rather vacation in Napa Valley or Catalina Island?
• Would you rather travel to Yellowstone National Park, Wyoming, or Acadia National Park in Maine?
• Would you rather fly to your destination or make it a road trip?
• Would you rather go to Universal Studios or on a cruise?
• Would you rather visit New Zealand or Nantucket?
• Would you rather spend your vacation together at Area 51, Nevada, or in Roswell, New Mexico?
• Would you rather spend your vacation together exploring Machu Picchu, Peru, or the Giza Pyramid complex, Giza Necropolis, in Cairo, Egypt?
• Would you rather visit Alaska or Norway?
• Would you rather visit France or Spain?
• Would you rather go surfing in Nazaré, Portugal, or in the Mamanuca Islands, Fiji?
• Would you rather hike into the Grand Canyon or take a fan boat through the Everglades?
• Would you rather sail down the Amazon River or go on an African Safari?

How Would You Rather Spend the Day Questions

Time spent together? We love that for you! Discover the things you both like to do and maybe come up with a few ideas for your next free day with these questions.

• Would you rather spend the day at an amusement park or on a hike?
• Would you rather go to a music festival or go wine tasting?
• Would you rather take a dinner train or explore ancient ruins?
• Would you rather go parasailing or skydiving?
• Would you rather go driving in the country or enjoy a public park?
• Would you rather go on a ghost hunt or watch a TV show being filmed?
• Would you rather visit a botanical garden or a history museum?
• Would you rather go to a private swimming pool or a water park?
• Would you rather visit a pastry shop or go antiquing?
• Would you rather go to a huge flea market or spend the day at the mall?
• Would you rather go to a zoo or an aquarium?
• Would you rather visit a planetarium or go to a meditation class?
• Would you rather go to a yoga class or go rowing on the lake?
• Would you rather go to a town festival or a state fair?
• Would you rather visit a brewery or a vineyard?
• Would you rather clean the garage or organize the kitchen?
• Would you rather visit open houses or an art museum?
• Would you rather explore the city or attend a concert?

'Would You Rather' Questions That Only Couples Can Answer

"Would you rather" can be as tame or as spicy as you and your partner want it to be. It's such a fun way to get to know one another better, spark intimacy, and even lead to some romantic encounters. With our 'would you rather' questions, you and your partner can make the most of your time together.