Ending a relationship is never easy, and you may have a lot running through your mind. While talking face-to-face is probably the kindest way to break up with someone, sometimes you just don't have the bandwidth to do it, so you turn to texting. If you're planning on sending a long breakup text but aren't sure where to start, it can be helpful to take a look at some examples that you can use as a template.
Long Breakup Text Ideas & Templates
Sometimes, a short text isn't enough to convey what you want to say. Sending a long breakup text offers you enough space to say what you need to say and end the relationship with a fuller explanation for the text recipient.
Break Up Text for a Long-Term Relationship
If you've been dating for a while or even been in a more serious relationship, these break-up text examples can help.
- I wanted to reach out and let you know what's been on my mind lately. While our relationship has been incredibly special and meaningful, I am realizing more and more that we both want different things out of life. Despite nothing truly being wrong within our relationship, I think it would be best to part ways so we both have the opportunity to go after our individual goals.
- I want to be completely honest with you. While I have enjoyed our relationship, I don't see us working out in the future. Something within me has changed, and my needs have shifted. I will forever cherish the memories we've shared, and I'd love to remain friends if you're open to it. I'm here if you have any questions or want to talk at any time.
- I feel awful doing this over text, but I felt this was the best way for me to get my thoughts out as clearly as possible. Being with you has been filled with incredible highs and some painful lows, but we've always managed to make it work. Lately, I've been feeling like we've just been off. I'm not sure if you're feeling it, too, but I've reached a point where I feel like we're no longer the best fit for each other. As much as I hate to end our relationship, I feel, at this point, that it's the right thing to do. If you want to meet up and speak in person, I'm happy to do so at any point.
- I'm sorry to do this over text. It's too difficult to talk to you face-to-face right now because you're so special to me. But the more time we spend together, the more I realize we are looking for different things in a relationship and in life. I will always cherish the time we've had together, but I feel it's time for us to go our separate ways. I'll always be grateful for the time we've shared. I'm here to talk if you need to have a conversation.
- I feel awful doing this over text, but I know if I tried to do this face-to-face, I might back out. And if I did that, I wouldn't be being true to myself. You are so important to me, but our lives are on divergent paths right now, so I think it's best if we stop seeing one another. I'll always care deeply for you and am so grateful we've had this time together. I'm here if you have questions or need to talk.
Related: What to Say When You Break Up: Classy & Kind Options
Best Breakup Texts to Send
These long break-up texts are to the point and calmly outline the reasons for your choice.
- I know we've always been completely honest with each other, so I thought I should reach out and tell you how I've been feeling. I admire and respect your ambition, but I feel like our relationship has been put on the back burner. I don't think this is anyone's fault. I just think we have different relationship styles. I want you to be able to pursue your dreams, so I think it's best if we end our relationship.
- We both have a lot going on in our lives right now, and I realize that I've reached a point where I truly don't have the time or space to give our relationship the care it needs. I'll always care so much about you, but I'm not in a place to give you the love, care, and time that you deserve. I think it's best if we go our separate ways.
- Even though we've had an incredible relationship thus far, I know that it is no longer the best relationship for me at this point in my life. I need to trust my instincts and figure out what I want out of a relationship, and I think it's best if I do that on my own.
Serious Break-Up Texts Copy and Paste
Striking the right tone is essential when breaking up over text since the person you're texting doesn't have any tone or body language cues for context. These serious texts are concise and convey the information you need without any ambiguity.
- As difficult as this is for me to say, I have to admit that I've been oscillating between giving our relationship another chance and breaking things off with you. After some careful thought, I truly feel it's best that we part ways. While I have enjoyed our time together, I just don't feel like this relationship is fulfilling all my needs at this point. I hope you understand that it was never my intention to hurt you, and I wish you nothing but the best in your life.
- Our relationship has been such an important aspect of my life for so long that I feel like I've forgotten how to just be me. While I'm beyond grateful for the beautiful memories that we've shared together, I think it's really important for me to be alone at this point in my life. Please understand that this is not about anything that you did or didn't do — you truly are such a wonderful person and have been an incredible partner. I'm so sorry to have to do this, but I hope you understand where I'm coming from.
- We've had a difficult few months together, but it has brought me some clarity. I've come to realize that we just don't get along well enough to continue our relationship. Neither of us is at fault — we just have different wants, needs, and communication styles. It's time to go our separate ways, but I will always fondly remember the good times we had.
Ending a Casual Relationship by Text
If you've been casually dating, sending a clear text can be helpful to end the relationship.
- I've had a great time getting to know you and can certainly say that we've had a lot of fun together. I want to be honest with you and let you know that I'm looking for a more serious relationship going forward and feel it's best if we break things off. I'm so appreciative of our time together and wish you nothing but the best.
- I am so grateful for the time we've spent together, and I've loved getting to know you; however, I no longer feel that this is the best relationship for me to be in at this time. I will remember the wonderful times we've spent together, and I truly feel lucky that our paths crossed.
- We have had some good times together, and I will always remember them fondly, but I feel our time together has come to an end. We're just not looking for the same things in life, and we owe it to ourselves to find someone who will fulfill our needs. Thanks for the fun times we've shared.
Polite Breakup Texts
If you're hoping to ensure that your breakup text is as polite as possible, these texts can help.
- The last thing I'd ever want to do is hurt you, but I feel it's best to be upfront with you. While I have loved dating you, I just don't see us working out. It's nothing you or I did. I just don't see our goals aligning in the future, and I feel it's best to end things sooner rather than later. I'm here to talk if you have any questions, and I truly hope you understand where I'm coming from.
- You are truly one of the most incredible partners I have ever had, but I no longer feel like this is the best relationship for me. I feel like we've done what we can to improve our relationship, but we may just not be the best fit for each other. I truly appreciate all the special memories we've shared and wish you nothing but the best in your life.
Breakup Text When It Feels More Like a Friendship
After getting to know someone, you may find that you think of them as more of a friend than a partner. Try one of these texts to end the relationship.
- I wanted to connect with you and let you know that I've been thinking about our relationship and have realized that I'm beginning to see us more as friends. I really like you and truly wish I felt that spark, but I have to be honest with myself and with you. I'd love to remain friends if you are open to it. I'll give you your space until you're ready to talk. I hope you understand.
- I've been thinking about this for some time, and despite my efforts to make our relationship work, I can't seem to shake the feeling that we feel more like friends than romantic partners. I've been dreading telling you this as the last thing I'd ever want to do is hurt you, but I didn't feel right not saying anything. I want you to know I think you are incredible. I wish you all the best and know you're going to find someone who is just as amazing as you are.
Breakup Text When the Date Was Boring
Sometimes, dates just don't work out and are completely uninteresting. The chemistry may be missing, and you may just not have clicked. If that's the case for you, try one of these texts.
- I wanted to check in and let you know that I enjoyed getting to know you a bit better on our date. While I think you're a great person, I just don't feel like our personalities were the best fit for each other. I wish you all the best.
- I wanted to thank you again for the date the other day. I really liked hearing about your interests and upbringing. Despite enjoying our time together, I just don't feel like we had a spark, and that's something that's really important to me. I wish you well in your future dating endeavors.
- I enjoyed spending time together and think you're super funny. But I didn't really feel a spark, so I don't think I'd like to continue dating you. Thanks for making me laugh.
Breakup Text if They Were Rude or Inappropriate
If you want to break it off with someone who was rude or inappropriate, you may consider texting:
- Reaching out to let you know that how you treated me on our date was completely inappropriate. I'm letting you know this in hopes that you won't treat your next date in the same manner.
- I wanted to let you know the comments you made regarding (insert subject) were rude and uncalled for. Please don't contact me again.
If you aren't comfortable doing so, you don't need to text someone who made you feel emotionally and/or physically unsafe. It is perfectly okay to block them.
Shorter Break-Up Texts
Of course, you don't need to be long-winded. You can also keep it short and sweet. This type of text is probably best for a casual relationship or someone you were just getting to know, not a long-term partner.
- After some thought, I don't think our relationship is going to work out.
- I've enjoyed getting to know you, but I don't feel we're the best fit for each other.
- I wanted to let you know I'm no longer interested in dating — take care.
- This isn't working out. It was fun spending time with you, but it's time to move on.
How to Break Up With Someone Nicely Over Text
Breaking up with someone in a kind and considerate way is totally possible, but keep in mind the individual on the receiving end is going to interpret whatever you say in a unique way that you can't predict.
- Avoid delving into too much detail regarding why you want to break up.
- Avoid blaming them for anything.
- Respond to their questions in a kind and compassionate way.
- Remember that you've known about the breakup for some time, and they are just finding out about it.
Breaking Up by Text
Sending a breakup text can be incredibly difficult and nerve-wracking. After you've pressed send, be sure to take care of yourself so you can process this experience in healthy ways.
