You want to call her up, but there's one big question that stops you: what are you going to say? Talking to a girl on the phone doesn't need to be hard or intimidating. We have some basic advice and tips to help you get started.
How to Get Started Talking on the Phone
Having a conversation on the phone is not as hard as you might think. You can start by asking about her day; what she did, who she did things with, etc. As she expresses her thoughts, ask follow-up questions that demonstrate you are listening. For example:
- If she tells you a story about one of her friends, ask how she felt about the situation or what's she going to do.
- Follow up your questions with your thoughts, ideas, or suggestions.
- Share something on-topic which happened to you that day.
- Follow up your sharing by asking her what she thinks.
Not sure when to hang up? Continue this cycle to keep the conversation rolling until you reach a natural stopping point. It's fine to end the conversation after you've exchanged some brief discussions on a few topics.
Topics to Talk About on the Phone
If you find that talking about what is going on in each other's lives difficult, try these tips for coming up with questions to ask your girlfriend:
- Be her last call of the day. "Tuck" her in by reading. Select a poem or a book written by an author either she or you enjoy, and each night read her a few pages.
- Come up with "no one ever asked me that before!" type questions. There are games based on asking questions, which you can find online or at a store with a toy department or invent your own questions.
- Use getting to know you questions. They will help you find common interests and things you both enjoy doing.
- Play games on the phone. Hangman, I Spy or other childhood favorites are a way to broaden your conversation skills.
When you're really stuck, have a few great conversation starters written down to help move the conversation along.
Related: 62 Interesting Things to Talk About on the Phone
If you find writing an easier way of expressing yourself, use that skill to your advantage and write her romantic letters. Imagine her surprise when she reads your romantic thoughts expressed via an email, letter, or a DM.
Talking on the Phone With a Girl Gets Easier
If you're not feeling very confident at talking on the phone, remember it's all about practice. Whether you just met or you're talking for the first time, it's important to just pick up the phone and call her. She'll appreciate the gesture, and once you've talked a few times, you'll feel comfortable.
